Self Improvement
As a starting point, I’d like to refer to countries such as the United States, and all developed countries because, it seems that both men and women agree that in some other, underdeveloped countries, women do not have even basic rights. Sure, women here can vote; they can have jobs and own property; but you can not deny there is still a kind of discrimination against them. To start, let’s recall what boys thought about girls at school. Back then, boys didn’t like us; they never want us to play on their teams because we were not good enough. The picture of a girl playing soccer was weird. Even more, there were several subjects we were not supposed to be good at, like mathematics. In math or science projects, we used to see a lot of boys participating – but how about girls? Maybe one or two. What was that all about? We might not have been strong enough to play football… but were we stupid as well? At that age, we can also see this discrimination in parents’ behaviour. If a family had a boy and a girl, the boy would go with his father to basketball games and he would get toys such as basketballs, Legos and play castles; all girls used to get were dolls and pretty clothes but who said we like to dress in pink? Furthermore, parents would wait from the boy to go to college, to continue the family business or to make money; on the opposite, nobody expected from the girl to be rich and famous; mostly they expected to marry a rich and famous guy…
But you know what is it the worst of all? For me the most inhuman dilemma ever posed to women is the following question: Career or Family? The question is clear and everybody accepts that we have to choose; there is no other way. Most also think women sure can’t do both, because we will be either bad mothers or bad employees. Why isn’t this dilemma posed to a man? Because a man’s priority is to bring money to the house – in other words, his job comes first. Well, you know what I think? Families need two people, both a man and a woman. No one has to back off their work; nobody has to lose themselves; they can both work and take care of their children. Maybe no one will get to have a huge career, but this has to be the price of a good family for the woman as well as for the man.
Many women I know have fallen for that Career/Family trap. You may think that you don’t know any, but think better. Politicians and C.E.O.’s of companies are mostly men. Moreover all seem to accept this dilemma as a fact; otherwise, big companies wouldn’t dare to make women sign that they will not get pregnant for the next ten years. You can also see this discrimination if you look at the number of employees of a company. Statistically, most employees are white men, then black men, the white women and finally black women; that which tells us more about some unacceptable criteria of hiring.
Finally, I’d like to underline, that even in our developed countries, incidents of men hitting women or treat them bad in any way, are not few. Who is to blame about it? Are all these men with bad behavior uneducated? And even if they are, why has nobody raised them to believe that all people – men and women – are equal; and according to human rights, we can not hurt them? But this is not the point of this article. I just wanted to remind you something that might seem all too clear but in the same time we seem to forget it.
You, boys, think twice before underestimating a girl; and
You, girls, think twice before deciding to give up your life.
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