Do you recall your first encounter? Do you remember the love and passion in the early days of your relationship? Do you remember how much you wanted to marry the love of your life?
So, how can we explain that the majority of married couples that visit marriage counselors complaining about the lack of passion in their relationship?
Sex is the corner stone of your relationship. So, don’t underestimate it. If you are wondering how you can make all this passion to your marriage, improve the way you have sex with your spouse. Try to avoid all the unforgivable mistakes married couples do during sex:

• Unforgivable mistake No1: No kissing.

Married couples live together and have the option to make love any time. They are also familiar with each other’s body so there is no mystery about sex; contrarily, sex becomes an automated procedure where kissing and foreplays have no place. Big mistake!
What you should do: Bring kissing back into the game! Kissing is the ideal way to light the fire in your marriage. It’s the path that leads to desire, to spontaneity and connection with your spouse. The lips are very sensitive - the longer you kiss (before as well as during sex) the more aroused you will feel.

• Unforgivable mistake No2: Same sex positions again and again

Maybe you have found a couple of sex positions that are easy to do plus they make you feel nice and comfortable but doing the same positions ends to be a little boring, don’t you think?
What you should do: Try some new sex positions. Discuss with your friends; let them tell you if they have discovered with their lovers a weird sex position that drives them crazy. Start research over sex positions in the internet, read as many books as you can find on that subject. Copy Kama Sutra! Add some spice in your sex life!

• Unforgivable mistake No3: No sex surprises.

And by surprises I mean new sexy underwear, a sex game maybe or a call for sex in the middle of the day or in the kitchen table. Well, most of married woman feel embarrassed to wear tiny red underwear for their husband. And no, it’s not too spooky to have sex in the afternoon as long as no one is in your house!
What you should do: Act like a couple that just met or like you are on your honeymoon again. Do not just have sex in your bedroom, late at night, every Monday and Thursday. Try to make love in other rooms and places, like the bath tub or the kitchen table. Don’t hesitate even to leave your house for a “countryside adventure”. Talk about buying some sex games and toys; decide together how much money you’d like to spend to refresh your sex life. Then, go out there to buy all the needed equipment.

• Unforgivable mistake No4: No dirty talk or too much talk.

She is not much of a talker. So, how can you be sure that she is pleased? You never asked her before if she likes all the things you are doing but don’t keep doing the same mistake. It’s never too late to find out what she likes the most.
What you should do: You can ask her with a dual question. For example: which sex position do you prefer? Me on-the-top or you on-the-top?”
On the other hand you talk all the time. Well, some dirty talk always makes a difference but do not over do it. What more, try to avoid giving commands during sex like “don’t do that!” “Do that!” and so on. You might make your spouse feel pressed and nervous.
What you should do: just remember that sometimes actions are better than words (especially when it comes to sex). Instead of talking, lead your husband’s hand where you’d like it to be or whisper to your wife’s ear what you would like her to do.

• Unforgivable mistake No5: You are not in the mood for love.

But you still said “yes” when your husband asked you to follow him in the bed. This way no one would be pleased. You will never get rid of all the different stuff spinning in your mind and he will understand you are not there. Total failure.

What you should do: When it comes to sex, men usually can get rid of stress and anything that bothers them but that’s not easy for a woman. If you are not in the mood to make love, just say it. The person that shares his life with you won’t get it the wrong way. Another thing you can do is to ask him prepare the appropriate atmosphere that will get to in the mood to have sex. You can ask him give you a relaxing massage or decorate your bedroom with candles and roses.

Tip: Do not make love in the absolute dark. That way you show your spouse that no matter how many years you are together you still don’t feel 100% comfortable. Remember: he knows your body; she won’t notice the few extra pounds you’ve added. Plus, when you close the lights you are missing the best part: seeing your lover aroused… if your bedroom’s light is very bright, you can light some candles as you are waiting your spouse.

So, are you still wondering were all your passion has gone? Just try to bring it back by avoiding the mistakes above. Sex in marriage is not a duty; it is a pleasure and it should be a pleasure. A passionate marriage is a good marriage and a passionate marriage is an achievable goal as long as you improve your sex life.