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by Asdfing Team  |  on June 9th, 2008  |  36 comments

Still in love with my ex

About 10 days ago we received a letter from Christina about a problem she is facing. She is in love with her ex who also seems to be interested; however, he keeps going out with other girls. But, better read her word and let’s give her your best advice.

Christina Ludwig wrote:
“Hi, my name is Christina and I have a problem. See, I dated this guy named Zach for like four months but we spent like every day together and I ended up falling in love with him. Well, we broke up but are still friends with benefits. I’m still in love with him and I want him back. I have even told him I loved him on many occasions. I think he still has feelings for me but I’m not sure. I can’t stop thinking bout him. I feel he is the one; but he is always parading different girls in front of me and my jealousy comes out no matter how hard I try to cover it. I don’t want it to ruin any chances of us being together again. So how do I stand out and shine from these other females?? Please help. I love him.”

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  1. sarah Thursday - 26 / 06 / 2008 Reply
    its hard but maybe the best thing to do is move on .....u can do it! x
  2. Lilly Thursday - 26 / 06 / 2008 Reply
    There is no need to stand out and shine from other females; you just need to be you. Its a "take-it-or-leave-it" thing. He should want you for who you are. If he does not, do not worry. As Sarah said, in that case, move on!
  3. karen Tuesday - 01 / 07 / 2008 Reply
    start dating again. i know it's hard, but u have to. keep yourself busy. if it's meant to be he'll come around again.
  4. Z Friday - 11 / 07 / 2008 Reply
    It´s hard when you have to make choices with your head and not your heart but..never stand by a man who positions you as a random option for whenever he wants..by what i´m reading,you say you think of him everytime and you want him back..well i think if he felt the same way you guys should already be together.Anyways..just be you..there is nothing more precious than being yourself!..it´s the best way to stand out and really shine among others if that´s what you want. And in case he doesn´t come around..well that´s HIS loss...not yours. take care and think about it
  5. Zone86 Monday - 14 / 07 / 2008 Reply
    I also had the same story of yours few years back.. I know it's hard to not missing the ex each seconds but time will heal your feelings.. just believe in yourself.. just move on... shit happens sometime... right?
  6. cai Monday - 18 / 08 / 2008 Reply
    you say you think he still has feelings for you, are you sure your not letting you feelings cloud your judgement? if he is deffinatly giving you the signs that he is interested then ther maby other underlying issues with the relationship that you had that you have overlooked, from the sounds of it he is trying to make you jellous, maby he feels you did not give him enough attention? if he cares about you then standing out from other females should not be a problem as you should stand out to him already, and if as you put it "he parades the girls in front of you" then you obviously already stand out to him so that should not be an issue, my advice would be along the same lines as everybody else, start dating again, however if you really love this guy then make sure he sees you with another guy, it may be that all it takes is seeing you with someone else to realise how he really feels about you, however if this does not work then things are obviously not going to happen with this guy and it would probabally be in your best interest to try and move on, bearing in mind the best things in life generally come when your least expecting it. hope this helps. cai. x
  7. net Wednesday - 27 / 08 / 2008 Reply
    like what the others said.. you shouldn't do anything to stand out.. JUST BE YOU.. sooner you'll meet someone who will be fascinated of your "being you"... and if that time comes.. go for it.. date and forget your ex.
  8. sami Friday - 03 / 10 / 2008 Reply
    I know how you feel. One things for sure. Be prepared for pain. It could be coming your way. Love could hurt you. And your in love. Try adding to the way you look see what the beautiful stars do, and try to immitate or create. call him more. show him how much you love him. do the things that please him. and when the times right, he`s all yours, trust me. But you also have to trust me on the be prepared part. Oh ya, during the process live your life. Don`t forget your goal. Make him yours ( Back again )
  9. sami Friday - 03 / 10 / 2008 Reply
    Try different things with the way you look. Watch the stars try to immitate or create with the way you look. this change should also make you happy. Do the things that please him more. oral love ect... call him more.. show him your jealous. make mistakes but fix them... let him know. don`t give up. Then when he`s attached. Don`t give him to much, only when he really wants it. You should ask him for stuff. tell him that you love the way he looks ect..But be prepared for pain. As the old saying goes. love is like fire, it can burn and leave a scar. He`ll be all yours, pay attention to him.And note that i couldn`t mention everything but you`ll know them when you feel them......
  10. Yessie Saturday - 17 / 01 / 2009 Reply
    i too can relate to your experience but like others have said if he really does care about you he would not do things that would hurt your feelings. The best advice that i can give you is to stop sleeping with him. This will help you move on and you are going to be able to think more clearer. He does not deserve to have that privilege. If he really loves you he will come back around. Do things that will help you improve, Think about yourself> if its meant to be, it will be. Trust me.
  11. danisa Thursday - 26 / 03 / 2009 Reply
    fuck the guy now na...bcoz f u dont many girls will get him,.,.,hahahahaha
  12. URSULA Monday - 25 / 05 / 2009 Reply
    I am in the exact same situation now.....If he wanted to be with you he'd be with you....He is just stringing you along in case it doesn't work out with the other girl....My ex will call me after every break up but toss me aside as soon as another one comes along....He will still have sex with me though.....Men are dogs...
  13. tayyab Tuesday - 23 / 06 / 2009 Reply
    thanks for sharing an informative post..
  14. izzy Monday - 27 / 07 / 2009 Reply
    I'm in the same situation, but without the girls. My ex and I dated for a few months, but we broke it off mutually because he didn't see me that way any more and I felt it. He wanted to stay friends, and I desperately wanted him in my life so I agreed. I couldn't bear the thought of not seeing him. I tried putting up a front for a while but basically it all fell apart before everyone except him. It didn't help matters that one night we got drunk and he admitted he missed me sometimes. I even have a rule with myself that I can't make first contact and yet I speak to him nearly every day because he strikes a conversation some way or another. I'm a confused mess, and he thinks everything's fine between us. I'd ask for space but this late in the game, it wouldn't be normal. There's my pride too. What do I do?
  15. Rockie Sunday - 25 / 10 / 2009 Reply
    Ask yourself the tough questions... 1) Why is he hurtfully parading other girls in front of me if he truly loves me? 2) Is it possible he desires to keep me hanging on for the easy and regular sex? 3) If he truly loves me, why is he still looking for something better? 4) Is he demonstrating to me that he's the type of guy who refuses to be faithful to anyone? I believe you know the answers.
  16. bernice Saturday - 21 / 11 / 2009 Reply
    I have the same problem, my ex called it a day a few months back, july to be precise, we still spend all our time together and are still sleeping together, he sleeps at mine several times a week and I stay at his, I am desperatly in love with this man and cant stop what I am doing because of this, he is actively looking for a new partner on a dating site, and this hurts bad. He calls and txts every day and says he has feelings for me and is finding it hard to break away from me, yet he called it a day as he just doesnt love me back, I am totally confused and cant move on and know I wont be able to if I dont make the break but just cant do it. Its making me miserable x
  17. sam Sunday - 22 / 11 / 2009 Reply
    I know how you feel, i'm going through it now. Stop sleeping with him (if you are) and step back a bit, if he calls don't answer every time etc. When you're around him be yourself, relax and talk about something you have in common. If he loves you, this way it'll make him want you more. If not, and he doesn't seem to care you stepping back a bit then you know it's time to move on. Good luck :)
  18. Holly Thursday - 04 / 02 / 2010 Reply
    hello love, my advice for you is to ACT like you have moved on even if you haven't. go out with other guys, hang out with the girls, or even better, hang out with HIS friends, if you are close with them. Not only will he see that you are independent and don't need him, but he will see you enjoying life and being happy and busy and this is attractive. I went through the same thing, and if it is meant to be, it will happen. But if not, try to accept it my dear and move on. It will hurt at first but in the end, you will find someone deserving of your love and attention.
  19. noel Wednesday - 17 / 03 / 2010 Reply
    r the other girls hes dating wear somthing u dont may be he lost intrest in u and found som in them i may be 13 but i 2 have many x so wear what they wear dont let him go but if he does not like like that anymore then u guys should just be friends.
  20. Sam Tuesday - 25 / 05 / 2010 Reply
    Well girl I think you need use some great tricks for making him fall in love with you. I'm not telling you to pretend you are someone else. Just be yourself...What I mean to say here is that you need to make him jealous. Ask one of your best friends, who is a guy, to help you out in this. You know love is never one sided. nor you can get it as a charity...nope...not at all. You gotta make him feel that you are a gem that has lost. Ask your friend to say good things about you when he's near by like- you are really beautiful, you are gorgeous, you are the best thing that that can ever happen to any guy, etc.. Other tan that wear things that suits you the bests, don't answer all his phone calls, don't always be there for him when he need you, try to become the eye catcher in any party in which you both are present...Smile like an angel..and no matter what happens do not let him feel that you are jealous of him instead make him feel jealous of the fact that he is not with you... You know its hard to do tese things but at last you will be the winner...May God bless you. With love-SAM
  21. Jeremy Wednesday - 26 / 05 / 2010 Reply
    Im currently dating a girl thats very flirty. She's a typical Leo, and very attractive. Sometimes when she meets other guys I'm jealouse because of how they teat her etc... Do you think this means that she would cheat? Or is it just me being silly? We have been going out for 1 and a half years and are both very deeply in love. She's a flirty girl by nature, so yeah not sure if its just me or if its something I should be concerned about.
  22. cille Sunday - 06 / 06 / 2010 Reply
    Hi guys i need some advice...Im a girl but im inlove with a lesbian first i did not expect im going to fall inlove with her but as time goes by I just realize that im inlove already..we been together in just a week after that i decided to make a break up with her bcoz im too scared having a relationship with a lesbian even i love her...afer that she get mad at me then she start dating someone when i see them i get jealous thats why i tried to talk to her asking if we can be together again but she answered me it would not be happen anymore.I was really hurt huhu..what will i do guys to forget this person?
  23. jenna Friday - 09 / 07 / 2010 Reply
    i have been with my ex about 2 years before we broke it off. but we still friends. he seems to be interested with me as he keep on flirting with me. however, when i confess to him that i want us to be just like before, he didnt replied my message. what that supposed to mean? can someone tell me?
  24. Lily Wednesday - 21 / 07 / 2010 Reply
    Hii, names Lily and here's my advice. If you love him and you feel he is the one, you should go for it. It's not the matter of moving on when you still have this deep loving feeling for him. be yourself, be confident, face life as it is,and be true; but its true that there will be a lot of pain if you keep this up.pain can make u lose hope and can make u depressed but you know what!!! fight for love! if there is a chance for you and zach why not take this chance? it must be worthy right? As for him "parading different girls", if you told him how you felt about it, he might understand, he might change. always give love chances, i know because im in the same situation... when u tried ur all, u will either be happy or in pain... if you gave it ur all, but it didnt work out then its time to move on. it's hard to on right... just think of it as loving him secretly but slowly letting go. last of all BE STRONG!!!
  25. Merry Saturday - 31 / 07 / 2010 Reply
    hey i know the feeling and im in thATT sisuation now
  26. lylove Thursday - 26 / 08 / 2010 Reply
    yes .. i think it's right.. i'm in that situation too..and i agree with that, i should stop sleeping with him...
  27. Patty Wednesday - 22 / 09 / 2010 Reply
    STOP sleeping with him!!! You are letting him get what he shouldn't be getting if you're not "together" but only have the benefits of it. Thats unfair to you if you still have feelings for him and he's not willing admit he has feelings for you or admit he doesn't feel it anymore for you. He seems like a typical guy though.
  28. leela Friday - 01 / 10 / 2010 Reply
    hi i'm fall in love with a guy for the past 2 years.. but this year i joined new college and i saw a boy who is younger than me.. he impressed me a lot.. i was totally disturbed.. i can't tell this matter to my lover.. because he is sincere to me.. but this new boy disturbed me a lot.. pls tell me a good idea.. pls..
  29. Emily Wednesday - 20 / 10 / 2010 Reply
    Um also in da sme sitution an it hurts a lot mre dan anythin well my ex clls me an check hw am doing does it mean he stil lvs me
  30. L.MICHELL Monday - 25 / 10 / 2010 Reply
    I kan kinda relate to u even tho my story is nt d same bt i need help 2 c im tryin to get over diz guy dat hurt me nd doesnt even kno it bt worse he doesnt even care nd im trying bt it hurts nd i dnt think itz working does any1 hav advice on hw to get over sum1?plz
  31. Vanessa Monday - 08 / 11 / 2010 Reply
    Have you done anything to make him think he will get hurt if he goes back with you, many guys are scared of love im in the same situation all u can do is tell him how u truly feel if nothing comes out of it move on show him you wont be around waiting forever
  32. Luba Thursday - 25 / 11 / 2010 Reply
    I'm at same sitution.. me and my ex dataed for 3 months and we hanged everyday and my feelings to him got stronger and stronger but i didnt tell me nothing about that and then we broke up cause he kinda still liked this girl and now he doesnt FINALLY! He saw what she was and how she hurt him..... Alot of girls me to move on or pretened dont like him well if you truly do you shouldnt do that cause i did and it was bad:( he told mehe doesnt like how i change and wants me be the kind girl he met over summer. and guys told me tell mhim how you feel about him. and I thought about it I think guys are right for the first time TO ALL OF THE GIRLS WHO LIKES THERE EXS OR IN THIS SAME SITUIION JUST TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT HIM. Really you never know he might feel the same but never told you so? so give a change and never give up on live because love is wprth giving a try evrytime you mess up.. I might not be right but thats how I feel
  33. Meryam Sunday - 05 / 12 / 2010 Reply
    hey there, all comments above may help you to think and start to let go, but always remember that not everyone is imagining him/herself in your shoes. Based on my experience with my Ex taught me how to be patient!! ow yeah you don't imagine how much i suffered! i was in a relationship with him for 2 years and that ended in 2008 but believe it or not i still got feelings for him until today! why? because i made the biggest mistake in my life of keeping him as a friend!! don't fool yourself by pretending that you don't like him anymore while you feel the opposite. hey there, all comments above may help you to think and start to let go, but always remember that not everyone is imagining him/herself in your shoes. Based on my experience with my Ex taught me how to be patient!! ow yeah you don't imagine how much i suffered! i was in a relationship with him for 2 years and that ended in 2008 but believe it or not i still got feelings for him until today! why? because i made the biggest mistake in my life of keeping him as a friend!! don't fool yourself by pretending that you don't like him anymore while you feel the opposite. Always try to get yourself out of it. And believe in this quote " what goes around comes back around " when i confessed my feelings to him he rejected me hence i decided to move on, and when he missed the way i loved him he came back to me. For this reason my advice would be if you want him back you'd have to let him go, if he really cares and really loves you i assure you he'll come back!! XOXO
  34. Ninfa Wednesday - 18 / 05 / 2011 Reply
    hey I have just read your letter,,I have the same situation ,we just startied to be friends,,,,,here is my advice ,as I am going to do like this......let him b e in friendly terms with me,,,,become to close to him ,as it is easier than ever as u are friends,,,,,,by and by he will start to miss u beside him,,if u dont phone him,,,,he will do it,,,,stand calm,,after some time he will ask u to have the same realetionship as before
  35. Melecia Monday - 04 / 07 / 2011 Reply
    I'm currently going through the same thing...its 3weeks already I saw him yesterday and I felt like crying on the spot it was devastating...I don't know how long it'll take to get over him in fact I don't know if I wanna....
  36. CARL Saturday - 12 / 11 / 2011 Reply
    I have been in bondage ever since my ex leave for another woman, It was really hell for me and everybody told me to forget about him but i could not because i love him so much, Things get worse until my friend Gina introduced me to this great spell caster Dr. Brain Worker and i contacted him through his website which is (http://www.udaspelltemple.tk) email is (udatemple2011@gmail.com) and immediately everything turn around and Paul come to me in the next three days on his knee begging for forgiveness that i am the one and only woman in his life now. i was surprise i have never seen such a reaction in my life. I am so thankful to this man

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