How To Survive A Breakup
Until then, here are some things you can do, to go through the painful post-breakup period a little easier.
- First of all, don’t deny the breakup. It may seem difficult to accept that your heated love had such a chilling end, but the sooner you accept the fact that they’ve left you, the better it is. Don’t be self-pitying and don’t keep asking why – just try to get used to the idea that you’ll be single for now.
- Don’t get close to the things your ex-love has left behind. Get rid of all the stuff they’ve left at your house, and all the presents you’ve been given for your birthday or for your 1- and-a-half-year anniversary. These objects bring you memories of the person that has hurt you, and every time you remember, you will start crying. I don’t suggest that you forget about them. After all, how can you forget someone you were in love with? It’d be like trying to remember someone you’ve never met. The best thing to do is to put all their things in a box and make sure that you‘ll lock it well in your closet. You can open it when you will be ready; when you will have got over then, and when this stuff can only make you smile.
- Do cry! Crying may seem an obvious result of a breakup, but sometimes it’s not that easy to cry even though you really want to. But, what keeps us from crying? Denial of losing the one you love may be a reason. Sometimes it takes a while until you realize that they have made up their mind and won’t come back. Pride may be another. You might want to seem tough and prove to your friends (and yourself) that you don’t care. Stop being selfish and stubborn! Don’t hold your anger inside; by doing so, you will just be more stressed and snappy. Instead, release your pain. Let yourself cry! After a good cry, you will not only be relieved, but also be able to eat and sleep a lot easier (eating and sleep problems are very common after a break up). Notwithstanding the benefits of crying, it is still considered to be socially unacceptable. Unless you want to make a fool of yourself (and this will happen if you walk down the street and you sob every so often), avoid going to the places that remind you of them. Just stay home until you break into tears.
- Spend time with your friends! No matter who left and how much you loved them, no matter how much you are hurt, it’s almost impossible to go through a break up without your friends. They are people who love you, and know you better than anybody. So, they will be willing to listen to you and help you. Your friends will always be there for you. They have seen you falling in love with the person that hurt you, they have heard your stories about your relationship, so they will support at this ugly period of your life. Don’t hesitate to follow them everywhere. If they ask you to go out any time of the day, it’s probably because they don’t want you to stay alone at home.
- Don’t try to work harder unless you really love your job. It’s been said that in order to forget about something or someone that hurt you, a good solution may be to work harder and keep your mind busy. This is not good advice if you are one of those people who hate their job and just do it because they have to. Working harder at a job that doesn’t make you feel valued and appreciated will just lead you to add the “sucker who works 15 hours a day for a guy that I haven’t even met” label to your low self esteem list we usually make for ourselves after a break up – this and contains words like “hurt”, “abandoned”, “ugly”, “alone”. On the other hand, if you are one of those people who enjoy their job, working harder is an opportunity to be more creative, to earn some extra money and probably to find some happiness through it.
- Do find a new hobby!A break up is an awesome opportunity to make a fresh start in your life. Your whole life has already turned upside down and the best thing to do is to make the best of it! Finding a new hobby is an enjoyable procedure, and will give you a good reason to wake up in the morning – you’ll have something to wait for. Don’t just stay at home watching TV. TV is not a hobby. Just ask yourself what it is that you like to do but you haven’t done it so far. Do you want to broaden your mind? Learn a foreign language! Do you want to feel more creative? Take acting classes! Do you just want to punch your ex in the face? Then you can vent your anger on the punching bag! Start practicing martial arts! Plus, getting started on a new hobby will not only give you a different perspective on your life and yourself, but it will also give you the opportunity to meet many new people who share the same interests and concerns as you. And, who knows? Maybe you will find someone that will make you smile again…
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this is a real beneficial article for sucha hard case i read it fully and it’s amazing
I think one of the best ways to deal with a break up is to work out, keeps u fit and foucused,takes your mind off of anything and then in the end you will look great
It’s really painful to have to deal with a break up, esp the first day. This article is really helpful to me. I’m sure I will get over this sadness and get back on my feet soon
I m now feeling wats above…it hurted for along time again n again i tried to hold my tears back throwing away all her stuff but it’s not helping every night i sleep crying….
I don’t think these things are gonna help. Its tearing up my heart without him. I love him dearly and i just want him back even tho he cheated on me and got her pregnant i will forgive him and live with it. I am just a fool caught up in love with this person. I need professional help. Is anyone out there who is willing to help me get through this. I can’t eat and i hardly sleep. Please it is killing me deep down and i am very stressed out.
You will get over this believe me I felt the same way and I still do but is getting better. You just need time to realize that he is not the only guy out there and that you will fall in love again. Trust me!! Let me know if I can help you more by email octavio_v@msn.com
I’m lost. I did everything for her. Supported her when she wasn’t working, drove her to work&back when she was-& this was out of my route. Stood by her when she betrayed my trust- emailing her ex that he’l lwys b her perfect match. Stood by her when she dragged me to some event so she’d secretly meet some guy & when i found out she denied it.Months later i caught their emails. How do u get over it when u gave with ur heart&never asked anythin in return&never raised a hand? How should i? I miss her badly. I’m tired of being the strong one@wrk,family&friends. Sometimes i want to receive too,to b valued. I jst want to die.I guess i’ve played my part in this world..and i’ve lost. Please HELP ME!!
Please help me!!!!!!
I did most of these without knowing. I feel much better.
Wow this is amazing. Promise. And awesome thank you so much for this now I can breath-better!
I am going through a very hard break up with someone I was so confused about. We fought often but loved each other very much. I cant sleep or eat its been like this for two weeks. I messed up she lefted and isnt coming back we talked about it and its over for good. its tearing me apart
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My ex broke up with me a month ago- We were together for 3 years.. I’ve done stupid things to try to be close to him coz it hurt and I missed him. I’ve gone through a billion emotions, and I still go through them. Now I think im going to try the no contact or clean slate rule. But its so hard knowing im losing and have lost my best friend and boyfriend.
Theres so many things I would change that I regret, I know all my mistakes, I do love him a lot..
I just wish letting go was easier.. No contact here we go.. If you can help me, please do.
Whatever i try not to think about it or do, It still hurts..
my boyfriend and i broke up last night because i doubted him for just using me and not loving me the way i love him. He argue with me and start telling me words and phrases that really hurt me a lot he even encourage me to say something just to show what i am feeling that moment. What i did was i just told him you won’t hear anything from me ive loved you and i dont want to hurt you because it’s going to hurt me more.but he keeps on saying hurtful things and i stopped. i cried a lot but im ok now sometimes when we broke up with someone you really love you forget that your saying words that will only hurt the feeling of the person you tend to forget that doing such thing will only make it hard for you to let go because you know you hurt him but inside you you where hurt most.