What can I say about love, that hasn’t been said? Like most of us, I can’t explain what love is; I can’t describe love with words. I can just tell you that every time I am in love I feel like I’ve drank 10 espressos in a row!
There is a Greek proverb that says: “You can’t hide love or a cough.” It’s true! When you are in love, you can’t hide it! However, most of us are very well trained in hiding our feelings. Although “I love you” are the most beautiful words ever said (or heard), it’s those 3 words which we are most afraid to blurt out. Why? What are we so afraid of? Is it rejection? Are we afraid that the other person will laugh in our face?
I don’t think it has to be so hard to say “I love you.” Just think about it. What would you do if someone told you that they loved you? You’d probably smile, right? Why would the one you love should act otherwise?
When it comes to confessing our love, we all make excuses like “it’s too early” or “it’s too late” or “it’s not the right time…I’d better wait!” Well, if you want my opinion this “perfect time” may never come. Have you ever found out that the one you lusted over five years ago was also in love with you, but no one was brave enough to spit it out?
Speaking as a woman, we are usually afraid to flirt with a man, as we are afraid to confess our love before he does. Because when a man confesses his love, he seems romantic; but when we do, we seem desperate. Well, I have some news for you girls! You don’t look desperate if you tell your partner you love him. It doesn’t mean you want to marry him, nor that you want to have his children. It’s just healthy and pleasant to express your feelings. It’s kind of a relief. After all, love is a feeling meant to be shared.
The first step is to admit it to yourself that you are in love. Then, you just have to share it with them. Since you have to tell them one way or another, all you have to do is choose which way.
The old fashion way: Call, blurt it out, and hang up.
Alternately: Call, don’t talk and dedicate play their favorite song.
This seems kind of stupid, but romantic! You may look like a coward, and they won’t be 100% sure it’s you, but it’s enough to get their attention.
The romantic way: Give them a rose or a love letter, or draw something.
In other words, use your talents and make your statement as an artist. You can write something of your own, or copy a “I love you” quote or poem (you can find them after a brief search over the Web). You don’t have to give them yourself. You can leave them in their desk, their pocket or outside their house. You can also send them flowers (guys admit that they love being sent flowers) including a special dedication.
The heroic way: Throw it into their face
Better choose to tell them when they least expect to hear it, like when you are having dinner at a restaurant and they can’t overreact. However, you can tell them any time you want, when you are jogging together, when you are stuck in a traffic jam…just take a big breath and go for it!
The modern way: Send an e-mail gift card or text message.
This is less painful. You don’t have to look them in the eye while telling them. But you risk that they may not answer; at least not immediately. Maybe they won’t check their email, or may have forgotten their cell phone at home. In case they doesn’t answer you, can either assume that they don’t want to, or that you are a bit unlucky and their phone was stolen that day! If you can stand the entire waiting thing, you can try something like that.
The devious way: Make them tell you first.
You can simply ask them if they love you during a romantic night. They wouldn’t like to spoil the atmosphere – if you are not afraid to be a little more provocative, you can ask him between the sheets (the worst answer they can give you is yes). You can also ask in front of your friends during a conversation or during a table game. They’ll spit it out first, unless they want to make a fool out of themselves.
The childish way: Besides funny notes and little hand-made presents, you can write a “I love you” note and tie it to a rock. Then throw the rock into their room. You might break a window or two, but it’ll be worth it. They say the only difference between a man and a boy are their toys. So, if that is true, he’ll love it!
The extreme way: Print their photo, write “I love you” on it, and post it somewhere they’ll see it for sure! Which train do they take to go to work? Which building do they see every morning when they open their window? Does their house have an elevator? That’s a good choice!
I have tried them all and they all worked. Not because I used the right way for the right man, but because every “I love you” is never a total waste. I mean, sometimes all it needs is to just say it!
I’m always looking into motivational books and books that can help us overcome difficult situations. Lately I’ve stumbled upon a book that I have found very interesting especially for someone that has been separated with his/her other half but can’t stand it and want him back into his life. It’s a very good book with practical and real advice that can help you win your other half back in case you have been separated. Just check it out here and tell me what did you think of it!